..how siblngs can affect your relationship..

By "sibling rivalry" we mean the antagonism or hostility between brothers and/or sisters which manifests itself in family fights (pulling of the sibling's hair or with the unwillingness to share a toy, and which try the patience of parents all over the world) to much more serious cases such as the permanent enmity between adult siblings because one is successful and the other is not.

Nature offers us many examples for sibling rivalry. The problem is basically one of competition for limited resources. Sharing creates the problem. Parents get exasperated and don't know what to do.

TIME, ATTENTION and LOVE is what parents need to give to each of their children. Simply simply looking at most families' photo albums you can see that this is indeed the case. Looking through these albums, one can see that there are usually many pictures of the birth and first year of their first-born child. For the second child, there are fewer pictures. And, from the third child on, one may have a hard time finding pictures of them in the album - it's as if they didn't even exist! This is because parents are thrilled when the first child is born. Their enthusiasm reduces afterwards. This has an enormous impact on that child and his or her later life. It is a common observation that, in most families, it is usually the first-born that has the greatest "success" in later and adult life. This jealousy and enmity continues later also and comparison kills the relationship. Counseling and therapy sessions can remove the jealousy from the siblings mind and let them lead a happy and wonderful life.